Treating People as People

Last weekend, I went to a talk about human trafficking to learn more about what it is. I’d be happy to share more in person or over the phone if you’re interested in hearing more. But, what I wanted to talk about was one of the three ways the speaker said to combat this global problem. It was to do your best to treat people as people.

Valuing people and making that a normal part of who you are is important for lots of reasons but I don’t think I ever thought about it before and as the week has progressed on, it’s stuck in my mind. Part of the reason I started this blog was to cultivate gratitude and that sense of thankfulness. I really do think that even just by writing down some of these things, I have learned to be a more grateful person or at least to more proactively and outwardly express my gratitude.

That’s all to say, I thought I should share my preliminary thoughts on this.

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Human trafficking is, in essence, the buying and selling of persons. When your culture, your country, your world, or even you personally can stomach the fact that some or all people are a commodity, that feeds into making human trafficking grow.

I spend most of my days as a physician supposedly ‘preserving and amplifying life’… so I thought that I didn’t have this problem. Some examples the speaker gave though were — think about how you treat the person who bags your groceries/checks you out of the grocery store. Do you look them in the eye? every time? What about a server at a restaurant? What about when you see a homeless person or someone asking for money on the street? What do you think in your head or do with your actions that may not reflect that they too are a person?

As with any change you want to make in your life, you can’t do it in one fell swoop. You probably won’t be able to change your interaction with every single human in order to show them they have value to you — this involves (unfortunately) money, time, and other resources that may be limited. You most likely can’t change your culture, country and definitely not the whole entire world — but you can change you. You can start to think about what you do in your life that may be seen as devaluing the life of another and you can work on how to remedy that. It could just be a change in your thought life, not necessarily an action.

For me, this plays out in the slightly more simple things like making sure I learn the name of my shuttle driver and looking at him/her when I use their services every day and saying ‘thank you’ and things like being patient with people in the service industry … but it also plays out in the infinitely more complicated things like respecting the value in people who may have different motives and cultural background to me both in patients who may make decisions that are counter to what I would make or in respecting the value in people that are making decisions for their family based on their idea of what is good (I find this especially hard when people are motivated by fame or fortune — which is not exactly the same as my ideals).

I think the idea that whatever is done to the least of these, is also done unto me (paraphrase of Matthew 25:40) is deeply embedded into me and this idea that we need to do our best to create a personal practice of seeing people as people deeply resonated with me. And by one person doing that joined together with more and more people doing that, perhaps we can change the world… and one day, the trafficking of human beings across borders, away from their home, into slavery, into sex workers, into laborers, into a door closed on an opportunity to live their own life… maybe that will end too.

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Made in the USA

Whenever I do laundry, I am on the lookout for Commonwealth of the Northern Mariana Islands — let me explain… unlike in Saipan where you pretty much have to be exceedingly lucky or not afraid of rats to do your laundry at home, I have to use coins to do my laundry. Fortunately, when I first moved, my mom exchanged copious amounts of money for quarters which has literally been a life saver. (PS You do your laundry with coins in Saipan too actually.. at least most people do, except lazy people like me who took full advantage of the wash/dry/fold drop off laundry services)

Anyway! That’s all the say that I am always looking for CNMI quarters (see one here). Literally, every single quarter I put in I flip over to make sure it’s not accidentally a CNMI quarter I am sacrificing to the clean clothes god.

And then this… as I was separating out my clothes that needs to be hung dry I find THIS! … On a pair of pants that I have had from The Limited.

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Sorry, for some reason cannot figure out how to turn it but if you can’t see… it says “MADE IN THE USA (NORTHERN MARIANA ISLANDS) OF IMPORTED MATERIAL”

So that satisfied my treasure hunt for the day while doing my laundry. So interesting to think I probably know exactly which one of a few buildings it was made in (unless the building was demolished)! And also glad that there are no more purported ‘sweat shops’ in Saipan although I’m sure there are just as many all over the world still that are not treating people right.

In other news, I made another run to Nimitz Trail and caught these two shots.

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A reminder

My Facebook newsfeed is filled with friends reminding people about the importance of the next generation, the importance of respect for everyone, the importance of a people … and reminders of the way time can slip away but also feel so close. I imagine that yesterday, many who knew Melissa were marching in part in her memory.

Four years ago, I wrote this post from an island far away. The unimaginable

Please visit it again. I hope Melissa and her family know that she lives on in the people that knew her but also in the people who she never met but touched. Four years from that moment seems almost impossible. How is it that the days have gone so fast? Recently, I’ve been reflecting on the passage of time. These thoughts are magnified by seeing an arc in my life that was unexpected and unplanned — this whole blog talks about it. The excitement and anxiety over a whole new world and now returning back to the world that I left — but a world that is changed and a person (me) that has also been changed. That is what the passage of time does. I hope, if you have already forgotten your New Years Resolutions, that you at least take some time to reflect rather than sit slack-jawed over the newsfeeds on what time has done to change you. I hope that every day is not just a day where I embrace life — (that’s too millenial for me!) — but a day where I learn something new about myself, about the bigger plan there is out there, and how I can contribute something to the world or just my neighbor. I don’t think I realized it four years ago, but that was what people treasured about Melissa — even back then when it may not have been in vogue to ‘be the change’, she already was.

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Nimitz Trail

I found myself a great new running trail! Maybe it’s the excitement of a new year or the freshness of the air or who knows, but this was a great run so I wanted to share it.

One of the thing I’ve missed is just having nature all around me .. like the whole sky opened up around you without buildings around so here was the perfect antidote.

This trail is in Tilden Park, a Oakland Regional Park about 15 minutes from my house. There are apparently many many different trails, some of which I had hiked before but I went looking for ‘running trails in Oakland’ on Google and came across Nimitz Trail. The Internet talked about stunning views and gentle up and down hills suitable for a long run so.. off I went.

From my time in Saipan, I am used to getting up early for runs so I headed out to Inspiration Point, the starting point, as the light was just starting to get bright.. about 30 minutes before sunrise.

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Then, from the parking lot if you are looking out at the view, the entrance is to your left. There are bathrooms and water fountains there but I was prepared since it said there was no water the rest of the way. It’s a total of 8.2 miles out and back although some online things said you could hike on the non paved trail at the end to a view of San Francisco. I’ll maybe do that next time to let you all know how much extra distance that is.

I had my Garmin watch but the path is all paved and has 1/2 mile markers (and some random 1/4 mile points but not all). The sun was just starting to poke out from the horizon and everything was a beautiful tint (like a real life photo filter!).

At around 1.8 miles there is a turnoff for the Peace Grove that is supposedly a nice hike so if you want to go somewhere that’s not as far, that’s probably a good option (but won’t be all paved).

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As you’ll see in the next pictures, most of the rest of the trail is open skies and and .. wildlife (aka cows) but there are a few groves of trees that you pass by. The terrain is up and down but not that strenuous.. enough to remind me that my run is not just a joyride but also a bit of a workout.

I then hit this cow grate and just felt temporarily back to Saipan. The cows cannot walk thru the grate so it’s as effective as a gate!

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After this cow grate, there is a beautiful valley to your right with some lakes that were reflecting the rising sun. Seriously, breathtaking. (And good thing for the views so I could have an excuse to rest a little bit! I haven’t run as much lately so 8 miles is quite the distance for me!)

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Well, I found the cows! They were just chilling out close by so I again had an excuse to not to run so much since I didn’t want to do something to get the cows angry… haha, no waving arms or anything.. just stealthily walking by and taking pictures. The cows didn’t last that long and then it was back to the other wildlife. I didn’t get any other pictures of animals but I saw SO many rabbits! Seriously, every few feet! I also saw a fox and a whole ?flock or ?gaggle of wild turkeys!

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Here is a picture at the end of the paved road at the approximately 4.1 mile point. You can see that the road turns into a dirt road veering off to the left but I was pretty pooped by this point and knew I had to make it back to my car so didn’t stay to hang out on this bench with this awesome view.

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Here’s a view of the ‘Wildcat Canyon’ from the way back.

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A absolutely beautiful way to start a morning and get a great workout in at the same time. I think I’ve found my favorite trail here!

 

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A visit back to Saipan

I cannot even begin to describe everything related to my one week trip back to Saipan — so will just give some a short summary of the work-related stuff I did here.

I went back to Saipan for a quick trip the day after Thanksgiving. The trip lasted a little over a week without the travel time so fortunately the holidays and weekend after Thanksgiving helped me not have to take as much annual leave as I took. Actually, I didn’t take annual leave from my job for the whole time because I did go primarily to go back to see patients. I had set up a follow-up conference to a educational conference that I had held two years ago that included myself, a internationally recognized physical therapist in the world of bleeding disorders, and the head of pediatric dentistry at the hospital I work at. I spent a day seeing all the patients who I had previously diagnosed with bleeding problems and had two half days of lectures that I gave. In addition, I got certified for the advanced training for using kinesiotape (that cool thing that everyone saw Kerri Walsh use two summer Olympics ago). So, it was a lot of work-related stuff and left only a little bit of time for Saipan visiting.

It was refreshing and so good to be able to see my patients again and update them. It was so good to do some teaching for the providers there as there were many new doctors and also ancillary staff who had not heard me teach about some of the basics of my field before. I taught at ‘Grand Rounds’ (the place where all the physicians on island come once a week to discuss something that is educational to them) on anemia (aka low blood count) and at my conferences about bleeding disorders. My patients were all seen by a physical therapist as well which was a first for all of them. One of the awesome things I got to do was take samples from my patients and get all of their diagnoses (aka medical conditions) genetically confirmed. This is a big deal since most of the time, genetic confirmation of a rare disease is both an expensive and difficult endeavor with only one place in the country or just a few places in the country that do the test. Fortunately, I was able to find a new company in the United Kingdom that was working on the validity (aka the correctness or accuracy) of their test that was looking to get samples and report on the results for free! I’m super excited to be able to get my patient’s results back and share it with them. It will help them make decisions about their future children and may even change some of the medicines I am able to prescribe for them.

All in all a really good time. I know this is not nearly enough and certainly does not encapsulate my feelings around my time there but that is hard for me to explain in words so I’m leaving it off the blog for now… It’s a feeling or thought that can’t be described – it was good to be back! even for a short time!

Enjoy these pictures from my trip!

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Residency and Medical Training

(Lots to update everyone on — an update or two coming soon about a recent trip back to Saipan!)

I am facilitating a small group session today — which is a fancy medical way of saying that I am teaching a class to medical students at the main campus of the medical school. Since it is at a different campus than I am usually on, I got up extra early to make sure I got there on time since I didn’t know how the travel would go. So, I find myself sitting in the cafeteria of the hospital and thinking…

This is the picture of residency and medical training. I watch tired appearing people in bedraggled scrubs with papers sticking out of their pockets carrying a plate full of breakfast and stumbling to find their payment. There are older attendings who have gathered over coffee to discuss their lives and their work in the corner — not stressed over the day ahead. And small 3-5 person teams of medical students and residents who clearly are working together and have banded together for a quick break from the day. Then there are the bright eyed residents in crisp white coats and scrubs — probably between their first cases of the day and fueling themselves for the day ahead.

There’s something about an older hospital with a small, clean, but all-inclusive seating area with the buzz of medical trainees and the staff that support them. The shine-y new hospitals have these restaurant style eateries with complicated ordering systems and partitioned areas to eat… just not the same.

And…. to reminisce with them all, I grabbed this ginormous breakfast :)

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Sky-ward glasses

Someone recently reminded me that I have been back in the States for almost three months now — a quarter of a year passed by. I think people still comment on it because there is something about me that remains a little different or changed compared to everyone else.

I often find myself wondering about what it is that’s different but I really can’t put my finger on it. I find myself often settling on that I seem to ‘see’ things that people don’t seem to see. Just the sheer number of times that I think about looking at the sky as the sun is setting or the sun is rising is a measure of some of the differences at play. Maybe that just comes with being older and wiser or more nostalgic and has nothing to do with time on an island nation. I guess a lot of the things I can pinpoint are mostly outdoors related — quite literally taking time to stop and smell the flowers. It’s like looking through a different set of eyes at the world.

I think I referenced a quote in this blog before that I cannot exactly remember — but it has to do with learning to appreciate the things that money cannot buy.

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You should be grateful for things given to rich and poor in the same measure, like the light of the sun.

And it is not to put down the value of things that money can buy, but it just seems that my experience in Saipan (or in life) has made me see the value in the un-purchasable things so much more so than the purchasable.

I hope I never lose my desire to look at the sky in this way.

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